Raising children is never an easy task. Children are people in an underdeveloped state and, like their adult personality traits that show can be a challenge. Sorry, there are more parents opt for the easy way and not to promote the healthy development of their children. more and more parents are ignoring the mental and athletic development of the child, the attention to psychological and sociological development. What is a parentdo? There are enough words to truly become an adult in the round? Here are the best four-letter words all parents should be back healthy, competent, caring and happy children use.
TIME
"Quality time and quantity of time" has been a long two decades has emerged as a kind of liberation from their parents the primary responsibility: the rearing of children. Büssing children from one event to another is not quality time. I'm just one of 16,000 childrengrow up to be a professional athlete. How many "Hall of Fame" You have heard the coach of Little League to thank? If this person was a parent, the answer is no. How many rich men have left their property to one of these groups? However, the rich men, large amounts of money to the Boy Scouts of America to the left for the same reason: the promotion of values, family involvement and civic engagement. A parent must have the following questions: Why are my children out of all these KartEvents? It 'really live for the child or indirectly through the child? If you are with your child as a status symbol? When we're together we talk about the child or the job? One last question, ask your child what the child likes, if the child could choose the activity that would be. If your child really thinks of you as parents and not a dictator (who said the assets), then the answer may surprise you.
PLAY
Play is a child labor. It isthrough play that a child is discovered and developed certain skills. Two years must learn to pull a ball back and forth, and the preliminary social skills are not the alphabet. A parrot can memorize the alphabet and a monkey can learn sign language. There is no great skill or superior intelligence in it. The game is a minor release of stress. It seems strange that someone who was able in 1968 to give the first grade without knowing how to read, in a school day that included two15 minutes of recess and lunch hours during the school year that the day after Labor Day started and completed before Memorial Day and continue to grow up and graduate school at the end of a CEO of a large company. Why do we think that the game is a waste of time? The game is fun. It makes you laugh so lowers blood pressure, even with different muscle groups for activities, to a low weight and is multi-dynamic teaches life lessons, sharing, patience, reading, problem solving, arithmetic,Rhythm, strategy, cause and effect, decision making, honor, self-determination, dignity, self-esteem, etc. always plays a game when a child, even if alone, is a valuable lesson learned. Just because a parent self-employed workaholic can not see that makes it less real. And 'even more important for children, parents play with them. educational television is the most poor substitute for parental involvement, is the parent company of the first educators in the life of a child. Do you really want yourChild to talk about his time playing with an animated character like the happiest childhood memory?
Video games only count if it is actively involved last for an hour or less, and the whole family. Playing a child who spends more than an hour, and even worse, but the game will not win any awards tangible mental, physiological, psychological, sociological o. Bill Gates does not own a video game.
TALK / DINE
Children want parents to talk with them, even ifsay "nothing" or "I do not want to talk about it." How does a child know what is important in life, if the parent does not speak to the baby? One of the best times to talk to your child at the table, it is not fast in any restaurant, or five stars, but in security and peace in the house. Home base is safe, is a time for parents to have the child alone. revised application in practice so that a time limit, can not be answered with "yes" or "no". Parents need to listen to theirThe children and talk to them about their day, even though the events may not seem important or teaching important to you. No matter the nationality of the child, religion, race or favorite team play the majority of them answer this question the same way:
MOTHER: What did you do in school today? "
Child: "Nothin '"
It 'amazing how many parents who accept carte blanche response. Many adults who respond in the same way, if "work" is replaced with the question of "school". The reason issimple, repetitive school, the same problems every day. The child is just regurgitating an automatic response. The teacher or teachers are teaching and the child learns. Try to rephrase: "There is something new, exciting, interesting, crazy happen today?" The humor of the question, flip the switch off automatic, and decisions are made in a store. Unfortunately, parents want to hear the joys of arithmetic, writing, reading a classic. If parents truly resemble theirChildhood, will remember that PE, art, recess, etc., their favorites were the times, too. The task is to answer this, tell him to accept and guide the child toward the academic world. Tell some of your experiences, good and bad.
Tell your children what you value and why. Because all children do? E 'bragging rights for a better future for them, their parents or at work? Studies have repeatedly stated that students in the lives of BC's most successful shows, because the studentunderstand failure is transient and the student has the power, the ability to change the layer effect, the student is not known.
PRAY
Not the fact that God has been removed from schools, but parents have removed from the apartment. A child, a system of spiritual support is given the most difficult moments of life around. The world is not bad, contrary to popular opinion, but coping strategies are not extant. Everyone must know that there is aForce majeure under control when they lost control. It does not matter how it manifests this higher power, provided it is positive. Centering prayer is a good way to focus a child, when life throws a curve ball. Prayer can make a parent time to restart the system before you react in a harmful way, both physically and verbally.
Pray with your child, the child, for themselves and for others that meet your child.
WORK / EARN
Children should learnthat money, privileges, terms, marks, etc. should not have won. Children get a real feeling of accomplishment when work and earn something. A parent does not help a child to any child without the child wants to earn it. A chick pecking out of the shell, but half way out is strong enough to survive. E 'with children who never learn the true value and performance to gain some' work. A parent of a child completesHomework because the child says it's hard to get one of two messages: the child is unable to complete the work, or parents is a tool to manipulate. Working with the child to reframe the child, teach the child the teacher for help, but does not complete the assignment for the child. Often, a child of the failure or the unknown result is scared and looking for reassurance of their parents. If a parent is the child's unspoken fear is now confirmed: I amNot smart / strong / good enough.
LOVE
You may not always like your kids, but you have to love forever. It 'important that parents often say children who love them. All children go through periods of doubt, especially if they have committed a crime. Children do not always "know" that their parents love them. If a parent can not say the words "I love you" to a child does something wrong and the child will interpret this as a refusal. Things have not love, lovebelongs to the people, not things. Not the money, which is the root of all evil but the love of money. A child will tell the world the love received at home.
Lust is not love. Children must learn that sexual desire does not equal love. If you do not love a child shows at home, hugging, for example, then the child, that physical connection to look elsewhere. Children need a safe environment and agreeing to be loved, to grow in Ladenthin.
It bearsthe obligation to be good, kind, sweet, and for those who are weaker. Love means that while someone makes you angry you have no right to hurt them or hate them. As a parent you must teach your children to be led by hatred and anger that created the child's actions or the actions of others. Love does conquer all, but you have to let go of hurt feelings that caused the trouble.
HOPE
Children should know that "the sun will come tomorrow." Children mustI know that no matter how difficult the situation will be better, could take some time, but it will get better. Children should know that is a hope for the future parent. The parent knows the world will be better because they are in it. The truth is, for the hope of the world will be better.
VITA
Life is not fair. Life is not easy. Life happens. Life is disappointing. Life is boring. Since the mid-70's parents decided they needed to protectChildren of Life. It is not possible. Children need life experience to learn to sail over difficult parts. Children who are taught to do or say whatever they want without consequences fail in life. Life means "no" more often "yes." The staff took a serious turn for the worse, because children do not learn the meaning of "No", discipline, responsibility, honor, pride or love.
Life is good because other people share it. Life offersmany chances to meet the most important of which is the number of different people in it. Life is for the beauty has rewarded by nature. Life is worth living, because it touches every life of every man, whether warnings of another person at the time or not. every child's life has meaning and it is the duty of every parent to look for every child and to assist in promoting that purpose.
REAL
Aging teaches children the difference betweenReality and fantasy, as long as the parents guide the child through the process. It is not the reality, to give children everything they want, because that is not life. Children who do not learn that there is a hierarchy in non-manufacturing business. The real world teaches everyone that there is always someone to answer. Even those who have a job, is responsible for suppliers and customers. The real world proves every day that an adult pulling aEnrage or is mentally ill or immature, and not be taken seriously.
In the real world there are consequences for actions. Physics, every action has an equal and opposite reaction can not be denied forever, it seems that someone was away with illegal or immoral activities. Every holy book is the equivalent of "What Goes Around Comes Around." Children should know that a parent can not always save, from the problems of theirCreation.
Want / need
There will be a big difference between wants and needs. Children who want their egocentric nature, everything. However, if a parent provides too much material, then a child too early to know how the child, recognition or gratitude? If a child wants the latest style in clothes to have individuality or element of expression, because everyone else has one, or an element tag in top form and with parents, without explanation, then mothertested, the child is more important than material possessions for personal growth.
A prime example is the perceived need for portable media devices. There was a time when a family day commanded to be the perfect opportunity for families. Only relatives were allowed because the point is to stay with the family. The conversation included talk long ride, sing (whether radio or tunes from the family, if the ether were not available), arguing, reading, crossword puzzlesPuzzle, or travel-size versions of board games. Now, cars are equipped or can be equipped with a DVD player, every child is an individual game held video game, several members have an MP3 player or a member is on the phone what was going on instead of real communication. Children literally tuning in the world with their parents outside. Although the family business to see the children and the ears of their parents' related to MP3 players and mobile phones. E 'It 's interesting that young withdraws more and more school trips and no longer want the children to bring their electronic devices. One reason for this is a safety issue, but behind it is a problem that schools are finally starting to address: personal communication among students.
Children's worlds are selfish by nature, is a task for parents to help determine between wants and needs. Make an inventory of a child's room and wanted to see how many articles have been set asideand neglected for the latest fashion.
FREE
What is a list of four-letter word without the word "F"? The entire list, if the terms are free to everyone and maybe the problem is. In today's society, most individuals with attention to everything that is free of charge. People have been trained to believe that is the most expensive the best, the most exclusive in the final. It 'important to understand the essence of man: love, understood, wanted and productive. AllAccident involving a deficiency found in one, or all, of these four. Fortunately, everything can be accomplished, and parents are the main suppliers.
All parents want the best for their children. However, in recent decades, modern fatherhood mounted on quicksand and maintained this precarious foundation of pseudo-educational-psychological smoke and mirrors. professional educators, psychologists, child and toy manufacturers have made millions on the backs of well-meaningbut parents unprepared. Halting the decline with the introduction of four-letter words in your parenting vocabulary.